We are living in a society where the man is said to be the head and the wife the neck and hence the saying the neck never surpasses the head. For a feminist that statement can be termed as chauvinistic but since its not my original wording i stand not expecting any finger pointed at myself.
Up to some point this society is actually chauvinistic with chauvinism used synonymously with male chauvinism(note that one is a specialization of the other).The latter term is used to describe a man whose Behavior and attitude towards women indicates a belief that they are innately inferior to men. Now we must be on the same track, right? This society denotes the 21st century society which is punctuated by numerous attempts by certain personalities to “fight” for rights of women. I stand by them because some men really don’t even deserve to be their families’ heads.
Ever since time immemorial we have seen the daily household chores performed by the ladies in the home and the man sit back and relax read a newspaper, watch TV or do whatever they deem necessary.
The big question is why is this carried out along so deep into this society if we claim to be changed. Also we need to understand what is the source of the chauvinism. there was once an election and the candidates were a man and a woman. With the women being the most populous the lady thought all she had to do was simply convince her colleagues and all would be thumbs up. On approaching the ladies and explaining what she hoped to do if on power, all the women could say was,” I’d rather give my vote for a kilogram of sugar than vote for her”.
The lesson we from that is very simple, “they are the enemies of themselves”.Before anybody feels intimidated just pause for a moment and reflect on how many times they have been in a situation where the are two ladies going head to head, what happened? Anyway the earlier story the man won by a landslide of course courtesy of the kilogram of sugar or an equivalent of it and was never heard of in the area again.
Can anybody remember the time when we were in primary school? Assume you a guy and the next door neighbors child is a girl. Wherever we came from school if our parent were not the type to leave parenting to the house girl they would peruse our books. Come the end of the term they would seem eager to get our terminal reports. They’d then want to know what the girl next door got. Woo unto you if she got better than you did. You know our fathers always seemed to come in only during the disciplinary moments so mum would always ask,”*yaani unashindwa na msichana?”.Seriously whats that supposed to mean? That girls aint superior that boys or what?
So if a guy really believes he’s the man are you gonna blame him for that, come on our mothers brought us up making us believe that boys are superior than girls and hence the equivalent of that in grown-ups.
So, you’ve been sitting there wondering what the source of all this, man its deeply engraved in our lives and now you’ve got the source.
*Swahili literal translation for “you mean a girl beat you in the exam”.