I have heard people use this term more than i can remember. They use it to describe the secret ingredient required for optimal performance in virtually all disciplines than the human race has ever been involved.The magic word is CONFIDENCE.
Wherever you go be it in a game of football,the game of dating, the game of settling down to start a family or even for a chubby girl who wants to look like the anorexic super models you will always here a word of encouragement,”you can make it all you need is confidence”. But wait a minute some people have misinterpreted the word.According to Wikipedia confidence is defined as a state of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective.The definition goes ahead and talk about what i want to talk about:SELF CONFIDENCE, which is described as having confidence in oneself.
We have some group of guys who want to be everywhere. They want to be involved in everything that is happening around them. They seem to be so focused but just pause and ask them what they are trying to do they wont even tell. Such a group of people have developed a layer for themselves that a bystander would simply call self-confidence.Watu kama hao(people like those) are simply egocentric, they dont care what you think,they will do whatever they want to do without even thinking of the consequences of their actions. They actually think that they are confident when in the real sense they are living in denial.
All they do is what a friend of mine calls cheap publicity whereas i call it attention seeking. Be it at the office, in the estate but most of all in a campus environment.This reminds of freshers. They join the university and find the real men who have seem the campus pavements for some good years and a little more courtesy of suspensions and other related reasons. then they try to behave as if they own the place. they make the loudest noise at the drinking joints, most arrogant in the common rooms and simply stupid in their mannerisms all in the name of confidence? you got to give me a break. Even the ladies become self proclaimed beauty queens, and that’s being euphemistic. moving from hall to hall and hanging out with the final years while ignoring their helpless brothers. Well girls you’ve have got our attention, by being “confident”. You can hang out with whoever but just remember the moment the final years are done with you nobody else will want to be associated with you or do i need to give you the life cycle of a lady in the university? you are going to be dropped like a bad habit and never get picked up again.
Have you ever known that we are the most beautiful when we are not trying to impress,so drop the crap of trying to show who you are because there is always something about the average girl next door.
remember
People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within. ~Elisabeth Kübler-Ross