“Don’t judge a book by its cover” is a saying so true. Don’t be misled by the looks you see so well publicized. What is displayed and what is are two totally different things. This affects a fascinating array of issues ranging from studies to the family set up by I want to talk about this thing one swears ending with “till graduation do us part”.
Many a ‘couples’ hang around each other or simply walk together arm in arm like a father bringing his daughter to the altar down the aisle till you get the feeling that if you are not doing the same then something must be wrong with you. They even call each other names that gives you the impression that they underwent all the major relationship tests and now all they need is simply a venue and a priest or maybe just an attorney to formalize the union .But don’t be fooled because the reality surrounding such interaction have much not to be as desirable.
I recently talked to guy who is our definition of a guy happily in a young man/young lady relationship. The revelation left me only buying him a beer in pity. He had reported back at the campus earlier than his girl so we had some time to silly around without him having to look over his shoulder. As we wound down an otherwise entertaining boys night out he couldn’t help to reminisce on the nostalgia when he was still in our club; singles club. When the chick came back we no longer saw him and when asked what happened all he could say is that she’s up on his sleeve round the clock. You can imagine what’s going on in his mind, what kind of love is that that turns a guy into a toddler and his girl a guard dog.
This happened to be that time when sex has been liberalized so whereas the guys will no longer have the freedom to hang with boys much but they get their ‘rights’ as they want them but believe me if I have to get sex in place of my freedom then I’d rather have the latter. Then another thing since your friends and acquaintances know that you have been dating so and so hence now when something happens like a fight you want to keep so secret that you could die. All that is important to some people is simply the image that they keep regardless of their happiness. For real what have we been reduced to, maybe we need to take some lessons on eagle dating habits.
Whereas it’s good to call somebody your better half but if it goes down to compromising all that is important and basic to me than it’s no good having one, further it doesn’t help showing what one got when what is real is different because whatever one is trying to show people they don’t give a damn. They have their equal share of happiness and sorrow alike and no offence intended but just keep it to yourself because people know that you have something you call love, share nights occasionally and make whoever is close to you miserably hopeless with how he/she did this or that but I still insist they don’t wanna know.
So before you get stuck in an undesirable situation just follow this simple rule: you treasure your freedom then don’t get attached to something you can’t run away from in two minutes, cool? Cool.